My name is Dave Mantin and I am the director of the Sexual Abuse Network of Canada and have made my day to day mission to be 1. a great father to my children and 2. try and change the justice system and civil system on how they deal with sexual abused victims throughout their case . We push for the sex offender database to be open to the public so they will be able to log in and see who is near their children, and push for tougher sentencing and conditions on the offenders that commit such heinous crimes on the most vulnerable .
In 2010 my wife and I found out we were going to have a son and I was overwhelmed with feelings of both excitement of having child and the extreme panic kicked in knowing what had happened to me and others growing up and nothing was done about it and I moved away when i was old enough to run from the constant abuse . I first reached out to my local church when I moved back to my hometown and spoke to the monseigneur about being abused by the leader of the junior knights of columbus and that i had reached out to the priest back then but the abuse never stopped . I asked if the man that molested me was still involved with the church and the knights and he had told he was and that the church can not turn away a sinner . I said Father I was not asking you to turn away a sinner, i asked that you do not allow him to come to the family mass on sunday at 11:30 where all the children attend and are only supervised by older children in the basement during mass and is also where the public washrooms are . I called the Knights head office in the states and within hours they had someone on the plane to take my statement and to boot his ass out of the knights immediately. I went to the Bishop in Saint John several times and they would never speak to me about what happened to me and just keep referring me to a priest that was a buffer from the victims and anyone that knows whats going on . I got super frustrated by the way I was treated and started gathering information on other abuse cases in N.B through the church and each time we spoke to the victims they gave us the same official run around story that has happened to me so we started referring the victims to the civil lawyers to get the church’s attention that its time to come clean and admit to what took place and work with the victims of child sexual abuse by the hands of the priests .
Here we are in 2018 and after about 200 civil cases in N.B against the church I reached out to the archbishop in Moncton and thought we were making a difference and getting through to him about making the victims come first in any reconciliation or settlement agreements and be sincere when you say you are sorry for what happened to the victims.
We spent hours on the phone discussing how the church should deal with these cases from the day someone reports it to the end resolution in the case making it easier for all parties and to show the congregation that the church is accepting their wrongs and working to ensure it will never happen again with plenty of checks and balances in place .
I reached out to many lawyers we deal with and other professionals in the field updating them on the hopeful conversations we were having with the archbishop and thought NB was going to be the model the church could use to negotiate between the Catholic church and their victims but then we see the news .
Blame tough lives of priests’ victims on economy, not abuse, says church
Archdiocese says lawsuits over sexual assaults are ‘unreasonable’ and it should not have to pay compensation
Really Most Reverend Valéry Vienneau you are going to allow your lawyers to go to the media and blame the victims, after all we spoke about and the flaws in how you operate when it comes to these cases . You ask why we always refer any victims that come forward to us to go to the police then call one of the lawyers from the list that have dedicated their lives to make changes in how the system handles sexual abuse victims . We came to you with a much better way to deal with these cases and save face for the church for the years of coverups but you want to continue with the lies and victim blaming and you wonder why victims stopped turning to god and the church for help.
Your ignorance is why the Catholic church is in the state it is in now in N.B and just like N.S it will bankrupt most of your churches before you accept reality .
From today on we are going to highlight a child molesting priest and who was in command when he was molesting children each and every day on all our news groups as well as our Sexual Abuse Network of Canada and the convicted child molester database so that each and everyday citizens of N.B will have a constant reminder of the torture and shame the church and its priests placed on thousands of sexually abused children .
We encourage all victims of sexual abuse by the hands of a priest reach out and tell your story, don’t let them shame you into silence . Anyone that has already had a priest convicted of molesting you when you were a child please come forward to us and we will assist you in removing the publicity ban from your case so that you can tell your story to the public and we feel that the more the abuse is in the open the faster the church has to deal with its decades of cover ups and reconcile with the victims and the congregation of the church the offences took place in .